Anxiety is bad enough on its own, but when you don’t have someone to talk to about it, it can make it even worse. I’m very, very fortunate to have my boyfriend and my best friend to turn to when I’m feeling anxious, but I’ve had plenty of moments where I don’t have anyone available, and I just have to figure it out on my own.
While these times are sad, scary, and usually result in a panic attack, in the end, they make us stronger and more dependent on ourselves than other people, and that’s where we need to be.
There’s nothing wrong with turning to other people, but at the end of the day, you need to be able to rely on YOU, and you alone. Other people are just an extra bonus, and it’s important to remember that so many anxiety sufferers suffer in silence because those around them just don’t understand.
Now, regardless of what your personal situation is, here are # tips you can use when you’re handling your anxiety alone.
Always work on your breathing first
If you read my blog, then you already know. Breathe, breathe, breathe! The last thing you want to do is push yourself over that cliff and fall into a panic attack because that darkness is hard to get out of. Just try to clear your mind of your anxieties for just a moment, and get your breathing under control. A really great way to do this is by practicing meditation. Meditation has helped me gain control over my breathing, making panic attacks very rare for me now.
Think about what someone in your support system might say to you
I wrote a blog one time about The Best Anxiety Advice I’ve Ever Received, and this was a piece of advice I got from my best friend. It’s something that I try to remind myself of when I find myself getting anxious and needing to turn to someone. I always try to solve it on my own first. It’s good practice, and it makes me stronger.
Think as realistically as possible at that moment
Being realistic seems completely impossible when anxiety strikes. I understand that at that moment, you don’t give a damn about what’s realistic because what your anxiety is saying to you MUST BE THE TRUTH! But, with practice, you’ll learn that it’s just your fear talking to you, and that doesn’t make it the truth. Like I said, it does take a lot of practice, but force yourself to ask yourself about reality and look at a situation from a “normal” pov. You’ll train yourself to do this automatically, making the anxious thoughts easier to push away.
Turn to a journal or a blog
Journaling or blogging about your anxiety can make it seem a lot less scary. When you write down your fears and then look back over them, you’ll find that most of the time your own thoughts are creating unnecessary chaos. It’ll help put everything into perspective. Blogging about my experiences and my own anxieties has made a huge difference in my life and has minimized so many frightening things for me.
Find support elsewhere
There are so many Facebook groups, forums, blogs, apps, and other resources you can go to! As much as I hate social media, this is one of the reasons I love it. You can turn to other people for help, advice, guidance, and just for a friend if you find that that’s something lacking in your own life. You’d be amazed at how many people can relate to you. I promise you, even though it may feel like you are, you’re never truly alone.
Who do you have in your life that you can turn to?
Do you have anywhere online that you can go to that you’d like to share with others?