Anxiety & Depression: What To Do When You Just Can’t…

I wrote a post back at the end of January about 8 Things To Do When Depression Hits Hard. That post is for the times that you’re struggling to get through the day as a normal, functioning adult. It’s for the times that you actually have the tiny bit of energy you need to overcome those harsh moments of depression. 

This post is a little different. This post is for those days when you can’t stop crying and you don’t even know why. It’s for those days that you can’t even get yourself to take a shower, let alone get out of bed or off the couch.

If you suffer from depression, you’ve had those days where you just have absolutely zero mental or physical energy, and the tips in my previous post just won’t work. I’ve been having those days more often, so I thought I should share my own advice with you. 

So, here’s what to do:

Let it happen. Take a break. Forgive yourself. 

I know that might sound like strange advice. Most articles would give you a million other ways to push through and not give up. Keep pushing yourself, strive for more and more, and don’t let the depression “win.” But, I disagree. 

I disagree because I’ve been there. Not only have I been there, but I live there quite a bit… If you read my recaps then you’ll understand. I know that when this poison takes over your mind, there are days that you can use steps to fight it, but there are those other days that you really can’t. You just… can’t. 

This was a fact that used to make me feel weak, lonely, and ashamed. It used to make me feel like less of a person, and it took a long time to realize that I’m not, and you aren’t either! 

When you have those days, it’s perfectly okay to just stop, rest, and survive. Pushing yourself will only make it worse. When you push yourself and then realize that nothing you’re doing is working, it’ll bring you down even more, and soon, the exhaustion will be unbearable. It can make you feel less worthy and that only pushes you even further down the deep dark hole. 

But, if you switch it around and quit trying to “fix yourself” for the day and just get some rest, it really can help you feel more rejuvenated and refreshed by the time you wake up the next day. So do whatever you need to do! Play a mindless game, watch Netflix, take a nap, or stare at the ceiling and cry if that’s what you feel like you need to do, and stop being so ashamed of that! 

I do this sometimes, too, and that’s okay. I’m not ashamed anymore, and you shouldn’t be either.

Just remember to get back up and keep going as soon as your strength starts coming back. 

It’s always temporary. It will pass. Just give it some time. 


11 thoughts on “Anxiety & Depression: What To Do When You Just Can’t…

  1. we are always told to do this or do that to deal with it but sometimes having a day of tears can really help and get it all out

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  3. We need to be kind to ourselves it’s that simple, we wouldn’t push a family member or friend when they feel like this so why do we need to do it to ourselves !

    1. I absolutely agree. It’s necessary to just stop once in a while and treat yourself the way you’d treat the ones you love.

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