Happy Valentine’s Day, my beautiful readers!
To be totally honest, I could care less about Valentine’s Day. Hallmark holidays don’t do much for me, but this year is a little different. I’ve got a bit of a different perspective on it this year. It just felt like the perfect day to cover this topic.
Valentine’s day is a day to celebrate love and relationships, and that’s great, but I feel like so many of us have forgotten the most important relationship of all; our relationships with ourselves.
While doing my self-love challenge since the beginning of the year, I have come to realize that the key to surviving my anxiety is learning to love myself. Plain and simple. A lot of anxiety stems from the fear of not being good enough, worrying that we’ll be abandoned, unloved, made fun of, or everything in life will just fall apart. Anxiety is a fear of not having control, so it’s important to remember that the only person you can control is YOU. You cannot control other people, and you cannot monitor every situation around you.
So, instead of trying to control, just kick back and love yourself. Control your own emotions, reactions, behavior, and thoughts. This might seem like a horrifying task, but it gets more comfortable over time. Do something scary like posting a sweaty, non-filtered, post-workout photo of yourself because you LOVE yourself! (Hence the sweaty photo on this blog!)
Since it’s Valentine’s Day, I’ll use a relationship anxiety example, which I also suffer from. Maybe you get anxious when your boyfriend goes out with his friends. Would you be abandoned? Will he find someone else? When will you hear from him again? What if you have an anxiety attack, but he’s out so you don’t want to call him and you’re ALL ALONE??? It’s like the end of the world, right? Does this sound familiar?
Over the past month and a half, I have come so far mentally since realizing the importance of self-love and self-care and the incredibly positive impact it can have on our mental health. So for example, instead of focusing on the fact that I can’t control what is happening around me, I focus on what I CAN control, and that is loving myself.
So, while he’s out, meet up with a friend, enjoy a hobby, take a bubble bath, watch a movie, eat good food, etc. Do things that make you feel good about yourself so eventually, you don’t give a damn what he’s up to anymore. If you’re busy doing your own thing, the anxiety fades over time. It doesn’t always disappear entirely, but it lessens, and over time it’s going to diminish more and more.
Loving yourself will work for just about any type of anxiety. Do something that will boost your confidence in yourself! Practice controlling YOU!
And that, my friends, is the key to surviving anxiety.
Now, use today to LOVE YOURSELF!
Happy Valentine’s Day!